When relationships feel tense or emotionally overwhelming, even small moments can trigger big reactions. You might feel irritated, confused, or alone—even when you're trying your best.
If you wonder why you react so strongly, especially with the people closest to you, you're not alone. Your emotions make sense, and they deserve care—not judgment.
Many people notice they are calmer with strangers than with their partner or family. Close relationships activate old emotional patterns, attachment needs, and cultural expectations that can make small moments feel big.
Anger or irritability isn't the problem—it’s a signal that something deeper needs attention, safety, and understanding.
Emotional triggers can come out of nowhere — a tone, a comment, a look, or a situation that suddenly brings up fear, anger, sadness, or shame. You might feel overwhelmed, shut down, or confused about why you reacted so strongly. These reactions are not “overreactions.” They’re often connected to past experiences, stress, or moments when you didn’t feel safe or cared for.
In counselling, we take time to understand what your body and emotions are trying to protect you from. Together, we explore your patterns with curiosity and compassion, helping you feel more grounded and less overwhelmed by sudden reactions. You deserve relationships and moments where you feel steady, understood, and in control of your feelings.
Attachment patterns shape how we reach for others, protect ourselves, and respond when we feel hurt.
When communication breaks down, even small conversations can turn into tension, misunderstandings, or distance. You may find yourself avoiding certain topics, replaying arguments in your mind, or feeling frustrated that you can’t seem to get through to the people you care about. It can leave you feeling alone, unheard, or unsure of what to do next.
In counselling, we slow down what’s happening underneath the surface — your emotions, needs, and the patterns that get in the way. Together, we work on helping you express yourself more clearly, understand others more deeply, and build conversations that feel safer, calmer, and more connected.
Many people come into counselling feeling exhausted from always putting others first. You may know you “should” set boundaries, but doing it in real life feels scary, guilty, or even impossible. Especially in Asian, immigrant, or collectivist families, boundaries can feel like disconnection, disrespect, or selfishness — even when you’re simply trying to take care of yourself.
Together, we slow down and explore what’s happening underneath: your emotions, your fears, your hopes, and the patterns that keep repeating. I support you in understanding your needs, expressing yourself clearly, and creating healthier, more respectful ways of relating — without betraying your cultural values or who you are. You deserve relationships where you feel safe, heard, and not overwhelmed.
Grief doesn’t look the same for everyone. You might feel numb, overwhelmed, angry, confused, or like you’re “supposed to be over it by now.” Whether you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a pet, your health, or even a future you imagined — your feelings are real, and you don’t have to make sense of them alone.
In our work together, we create a calm, compassionate space where you can slow down, breathe, and understand what your heart is carrying. I help you gently explore your emotions, honour your loss, and reconnect with your strength and meaning at your own pace — without pressure, judgment, or timelines.
Many of my clients come to me feeling confused, overwhelmed, or stuck in dating. You might be unsure how to express your needs, worried about being “too much” or “not enough,” or noticing the same painful patterns showing up again and again. You want closeness, but you also want to feel emotionally safe and truly seen for who you are.
Dating can feel especially complicated when you’re navigating identity, cultural expectations, or the unique challenges of the LGBTQ+ and queer dating world. Many of my clients carry pressure from family, mixed feelings about belonging, or a fear of being misunderstood.
In our work together, I help you understand your emotions, recognize your patterns, and express yourself with more clarity and confidence. As a BIPOC, queer immigrant therapist, I bring both professional training and lived experience to support you in building relationships where you feel valued, respected, and able to show up as your true self.
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT/EFIT), we slow things down together to explore what’s happening underneath — your emotions, fears, and longings. This helps you move toward relationships that feel safer, more connected, and more authentic.
Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) supports you in understanding your emotions, expressing your needs more clearly, healing old emotional wounds, and rebuilding trust with yourself and others.
As a BIPOC, queer immigrant therapist, I understand how identity, language, and cultural expectations shape how we love and communicate. You deserve relationships that respect who you are and where you come from.
You don’t have to handle dating stress or relationship pressure on your own. There is a way to feel understood, supported, and emotionally safe — and I’m here to walk alongside you as you find that path.
I specialize in working with individuals from diverse cultural and personal backgrounds, particularly those navigating challenges related to communication, cultural expectations, and identity.
For your convenience, I offer in-person counseling sessions at my office on West Broadway in Vancouver, providing a safe and comfortable space for your family to work through challenges and build stronger connections. Together, we’ll create a path toward a more harmonious and supportive family environment where everyone can thrive.
Reaching out can feel hard — I truly understand.
But it’s also an important first step toward feeling supported and grounded.
If you’re ready — or even just a little curious — let’s connect.
I’m happy to answer your questions or help you set up a
free 20-minute consultation so you can get a sense of what working together might feel like.
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